Category Archives: Personal Development

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What to do when you have done something you regret!

If you live long enough, you will for certain say something or do something that you regret! Perhaps your words have hurt someone’s feelings or you have done something to someone that you know wasn’t right. Here is how to take positive steps to fix the situation or at least do what is right.

  1. Recognize your part in what you said or did. Ask yourself:”What was the reason , or was there a reason you did this to someone”? This is important so you can understand what emotion triggered your response.
  2. After you have done a review and understand your part, see if there is a pattern in your behavior that triggered it. What were you doing when this happened? Were you drinking too much or smoking to much? Were you in a weakened state when this behavior occurred? Were you angry, tired, or hurt?
  3. Chances are this might be a pattern so immediately take steps to minimize this behavior in the future. This is done by a pain/pleasure scale. Is the pleasure of having a few drinks (lets say) worth the pain of what you caused? Engage your intellect so that the next time you are in this pattern, you take guard of your senses.
  4. Go to the person you hurt personally and apologize. Don’t text them or call them. Go and admit to them the reasons why you did this. Chances are they will forgive you if you show remorse for your actions. Without remorse, there is no change of behavior.
  5. Once you apologize, now it just takes time to prove you are on a better path. Remember, we all make mistakes so don’t beat yourself up to death. Remember that they also are dealing with some issue. Maybe different from yours, but in God’s eyes, maybe just the same.
  6. Change your behavior so that others can see that you are sorry. Become better from this experience, not bitter. Don’t hide from people over it, but love more.
  7. And last, remember that forgiveness is a release for you and for the one you hurt. Forgiveness allows each of you to move forward. Without forgiveness, neither of you can move forward.
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Why Quality Relationships Matter

It has been said that the quality of your life is very dependent on the quality of your relationships. In fact, if you look at the 5 most important relationships that you have, it will tell you something about yourself. If you hang with positive, energetic people, chances are you are one of those types. If you hang with lazy, low energy people, changes are you are like those types of people. So, it is critically important to choose your friends and partnerships wisely. Unfortunately, we live in a world today that places more emphasis on “stuff” rather than relationships. Today, many people view their success on the wrong things. Its about building and growing lasting relationships that will have the greatest impact on someone’s life.

Here are 3 questions you should ask yourself:

  1. What positive relational connections am I helping to create for the people I care about?
  2. What influence am I creating through my example and words?
  3. How deeply do I care about the people God has brought into my life?

(Taken from my pastor’s sermon series-Pastor Jonathan Schaeffer)

If you stop and think about those 3 questions, it might give you some direction on the impact you are making in someone’s life. And another question that you should ask yourself is: “How do I want to remembered when I die?” Do you want to be remembered as a cheap person, or a generous person? Do you want to be remembered as a selfish person or a kind and loving person? Do you have good relationships with your parents and siblings, or do you fight and argue any chance you speak with them. Our words matter and what we say can profoundly impact another person beyond what we can even imagine. Our relationship with our children has a significant impact on their emotional health, and the quality of their future relationships. So, take the time to see how you are impacting the people around you. Relationships do matter and the quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life!

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How to Perform the Miracle of Multiplication…

The simple but difficult step necessary to perform the miracle of multiplication is the act of “giving thanks”. No matter how much you have or don’t have in your life at this very moment, just offer it up to God and give thanks for it. “Giving thanks is crucial to a life of fullness and blessing. On top of that, it also gives you the power to perform the miracle of multiplication.” The key is not to look at how little you have or how big your problem is or how impossible the situation is. “You lift it up to the God and you give thanks for it. And the blessings you have will multiply, if not in the world, then in your heart.” Taken from the Book Of Mysteries by Jonathan Cahn.

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How to Thrive in Your Wilderness Experience-7 steps

If you live long enough, you will for certain experience the pain of a curve ball in life. Perhaps its the loss of a dream job, divorce of a spouse, betrayal of a business partner, death of a loved one, or some kind of sickness of a family member or friend. Here are 7 steps to make it through with peace.

  1. When the curve ball hits home, instead of asking: “Why Me?”, ask yourself what is God trying to teach me?
  2. Check your foundation? If your house is built on sand, chances are you won’t have the stamina to whether the storm. Make sure you build your house on a rock foundation.
  3. Change your perspective! You have to start to think from the eternal and not just what you see here on earth. If you begin to look at all that is happening to you, God will work together for your good, things start to look differently to you. But remember, you need to be one of his family members.
  4. Run your race! Things happen because either God allowed it to happen or he caused it to happen. Of course we have our free will but God is sovereign over all and it is a mystery. Look to your life and don’t be jealous or looking at someone else’s life and wish you had it.
  5. Seek and search for peace. Everyone will experience some sort of wilderness experience, but if you are at peace with yourself and with God, you can walk through the wilderness knowing that God is using this time to speak to you.
  6. Listen and watch for guide posts. While you navigate through your wilderness in peace, God will show you mile markers and guide posts. He will guide your footsteps like a GPS.
  7. Hold onto God’s promises. When your going through the wilderness, hold onto God’s promises that you will get to the other side. You will make it through if you get on your knee’s each morning a pray. God uses this time to speak to you and tell you what steps to take next on your journey.

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”  Helen Keller

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This Is What Everyone Wants!

I love networking and putting people together!  And normally during the conversation you hear two basic themes.  People want more money and more free time.  Work life balance has become a major focus for people and understandably, it is important.   In the country that we live in, having enough money to live a comfortable life is important.  On the other hand, people want more free time to spend with their family and loved ones.   Often times, we sacrifice  our family for earning a living.  So what is the solution to it all?

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“Take small steps to Integrate work, home, community and self.  This will make you a more productive leader and a more fulfilled person”…CBMC Leadership Institute.