How To Stand Out In A Noisy World….

This past weekend I attended my daughter’s graduation from Ohio State University.  With 11, 700 graduates, it was one of the largest college graduations in the nation!  And, as usual, there were speakers that addressed the class of 2017!  The Stadium was filled as well and the volumes of parents, friends and family all there to support and honor their graduating family member!  It was truly an inspiration to see such an amazing process and life event take place.   But the speaker that stood out from the rest and the noise of the day, was a speaker named Abigail S. Wexner!  She was an excellent speaker and addressed the class with truly inspirational words.  For those not familiar with the Wexner name, the Wexner’s  are successful  business people that have contributed significantly to Ohio State and to public education in Columbus!  So, after reading her bio, I was expecting something completely different than what she delivered.  She spoke about growing up as a Jewish girl and how one individual changed her life!  She spoke about her STRUGGLES and her JOURNEY and how she ended up helping others and giving back.  It touched my heart as I am sure it did many others.  But her message was so simple, yet so  profound-that one person can make a difference in someone else’s life by simply helping them and being kind! Her explanation of her “STRUGGLE” and her explanation of her “JOURNEY” and her simple advice on her “SOLUTION” is what separated her from the rest of the speakers.  In fact, that is what I want to leave you with today.  If you want to inspire someone and stand out from the rest in this noisy world, you must first identify with someones’  STRUGGLES and then tell them about your JOURNEY to solving your struggles.  And finally, help them with your SOLUTION!   A simple 3 step process for standing out in this noisy world!

 

How to find your Purpose in life-OnPurpose

"Living Above The Line"

For my entire life I have always been the “Go To” guy. Friends, family and colleagues have always come to me asking for advice on how to get a job, how to be happy, how to make money or simply how to figure out or fix something. Does this sound like you? I think this is because I have always been a “Above the Line” kind of person. In many ways, that is my “why” in life.  I have been blessed with the ability to normally see the good in any situation no matter how difficult the situation can be.  I have come to realize that this is truly the only way to live happily! I had never heard that expression before, but my friend, Simon, introduced me to this concept and I believe it is an important element in your pursuit to finding meaning and purpose in life.  Always try to be an “Above the Line” person.

Just what exactly is an “Above the Line” person? Well, there are basically two types of people. People who live above the line and people who live below the line. I was fortunate enough to always land above the line! First, lets define a Below the Line person. These are the folks that always feel like they are the victim! IT is always someone else’s fault for the reason they are in the situation they are in. They tend to be easily offended, highly critical of others, micro managers,  unforgiving and narcissistic.   A classic line from a below the line person usually sounds something like this:”You don’t understand……”  For me this a always a warning sign.

Now lets look at an “Above the Line” person!  I don’t want to lead you down the path that these types of individuals are the greatest, but I can tell you that they will definitely add more value to your life.  Above the Line folks live  a life deep rooted in  confidence and peace.  This is what gives them their sustainability to keep rolling and helping others.  Above the Line people are genuinely interested in other people as well.  Above the Line people are givers of their time and talents and when you encounter them, you feel blessed!  They actually give you energy instead of sucking the energy from you.  Above the Line people live with gratitude no matter what they have.

So, how do you transform yourself if you are a “Below the Line” person?  The first step is to know that you are living below the line.  It is knowing exactly where you are and the reason you are there.  The second step is to determine where you want to go and who you want to become.  And the third step is to find help in achieving this transformation.

Finally, the only way to find your purpose in life is to move towards becoming an Above the Line person.  It takes time and hard work, but the rewards are worth it.  To be free from “things” and “stuff” is a great freedom few people know.

 

The Reason Why We Sometimes Choose Our Betrayers…And the GOOD NEWS!

I wanted to write this post around Easter because it fits this time of year! I have often thought about Judas and Jesus and wondered why this happened? Why did God allow this to happen? Why did Judas betray his best friend? Did Judas really have a choice or was it the destiny of Judas to fulfill scripture? Well, this is a very difficult issue to ponder about because it gives us all great perspective into our current lives! And, it leads back to the title of this post, how we may actually choose the very people who betray us!

Speaking from my own experience, I can tell you that I chose my betrayer! Without going into the personal details, I can only tell you that betrayal hurts very deeply. So deeply that it can “Pierce your very Soul”! And for any of you who have experienced a deep and personal betrayal of any kind, you know how difficult it is to OVERCOME! NO ONE EVER GETS AWAY WITH A BETRAYAL and leads a happy life afterwards! Judas ended up hanging himself!

Now, let us turn to what can be learned from a betrayal! First, you must gain the perspective that you are not alone. As it happened to Jesus, it can happen to you. Jesus chose his betrayer, and so can we! Second, God often allows a betrayal because his perspective is different then ours. The Bible tells us that “What was meant for evil, God can turn it into something good”. This a powerful perspective for us to learn and apply. If we take on the right perspective, we can look back and see how God actually gave us the “advantage”. Even though Judas betrayed Jesus, that wasn’t the end of the story! And some 2000 years later, the effects of Judas’s evil deed, is still saving us and giving us New Life today! Hence, the Easter message!

Now, how can you forgive your betrayer even if they never apologize to you? Well, the answer to this difficult situation lies in our ability to see our own sin before God! This is the single biggest obstacle to enjoying the Easter life and the Easter message. I have found that the only way I could forgive my betrayer, was to see my own betrayal before God. And God will show this to you if you are willing to accept it. This was an unmasking of myself and my own sin before God. And this is the challenge that each one of us has to go through for ourselves. When you can see your own sin before God and have accepted Jesus into your heart, it then becomes possible for you to truly forgive your betrayer. That was how I was able to forgive my friend who betrayed me and never apologized for it.

Now, why is it so difficult for people to see their own sin? Well, because this is very hard work and intense work. Our ego never wants us to see our own sin. Our ego and and the devil never want us to see our own sin. And as long as we can’t see our own sin, we are not truly living in God’s perfect will. We make up our own truth about what the Bible says how we should live.

As we approach Easter, let us remember that God is still in the miracle business! He is still talking and communicating to us! He is still asking us to confess our sins to him. He is still blessing us and asking us to be a blessing to others. And, he wants us to know that he can turn our “messes” into his “miracles”.

Happy Easter!

How to Turn Your Life’s Story into a Product line

"While becoming the WikiLeader of your Expert Space"

In a previous post, we talked about the three steps to creating a product from your story.  The first step is to tell about your struggle. The second is to describe your journey to finding a solution to that struggle.  And the third is give a solution to that struggle.  In those three steps you can tell your story and craft a message that people are willing to pay for.

Lets look a little deeper into how to create what I call becoming the “Wiki-Leader” of your expert space OnPurpose.  When you go through “tough times” you develop unique insights how to get through tough times.  While it would be nice just to get through the shortest way, normally we are given detours and roadblocks that define your struggle.  And we know that everyone likes hearing about how to turn a struggle into a success.  So the first thing to do is to see if what your customers want is what you have to offer.  In this intersection, we can begin to define our product.

The three clarifying questions you have to ask yourself before developing your own product/service include:

  1. What are your passions and what do you like talking about daily?
  2. Could  you see yourself coaching people how to get through what you went through?
  3. What do people look up to you for and what are they constantly coming to you for?

Craft a solution statement to your struggle and journey.  It could look something like this:

If (Target market/customers) use ( Product/Service derived from Struggle), they will overcome ( XYZ roadblocks and detours) and finally achieve (Desired Results).

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How To Turn Your “Life’s Story” Into a Product That Creates A Revenue Stream

"Part of you Platform Building Cornerstone"

Have you ever dreamed of having your own business and doing what you love to do everyday?  Are you struggling to gain clarity and confidence to pursue your dreams?  Do you know where you are heading in  life?  Do you have a personal and professional Vision/Mission/Core Values statement?  Well if all of this sounds frustrating and confusing to you, lets start with your “Story” and your “Why”.   I think everyone would agree that we all have struggled to gain clarity and we all have a “Story” and a “Why” to share with the world.  But the challenge is: “How do we do this?”

So let me share 3 simple steps to achieve your Destiny and Purpose in life and here they are:

  1. Struggle
  2. Journey
  3. Solution

The foundation of your revenue stream lies in your ability to share your struggle, journey and solution to that struggle with the world.  People are looking to short cut their troubles and people are willing to pay for what you have learned in life.  So instead of forgetting about all of those difficult struggles in life, go back and see that those struggles are truly “unrealized assets” to your future revenue stream. In my next blog post, I will share with you the next steps…

 

 

 

How to Craft a Mission/Vision/Values statement……

The concept of crafting a Mission/Vision/Values statement is not just for large corporate organizations.  It also serves the expert, entrepreneur and small business.  But beyond the organization, it is important for individuals to craft a personal Mission/Vision/Values statement.  Having a clear vision of where you want to go personally, or professionally requires understanding what values you stand for and how these will impact others or the organization.  Lets go into some detail what each of these statements mean:

  1. The Value Statement describes how you behave or how members of your organization behave.  It is a clear picture of what we believe in and how we will go forward. The value statement is often referred to as “core values”.  The core values, as previously stated, define who you are and what type of people you want to attract.  The basis for you or your organization’s differentiation is it’s core values and value statement.
  2. The Mission Statement describes the purpose of the organization and the reason why the organization exists, but it is critical to see it from the eyes of the customer.  It is what the organization is doing for the customer and the value being created.
  3. The Vision Statement describes what the organization will become (envisioned future).  It describes the “Invisible” connections that exist, but not seen yet.  The vision statement clarifies what the organization will become once the strategic plan materializes.

When individuals and organizations write down their Vision/Mission/Value Statements, they set in place a proven mechanism for achieving their Purpose and Destiny.  Research supports the fact that when goals are developed from a clear Vision/Mission/Value statement, the achievement of such goals improves dramatically.

 

How to Overcome the Election Drama

"And still keep your friends"

Well, here we are in 2017 and the election is over.  Here are 5 key strategies to think about  to calm the conversations if you engage in political discussions and want to remain friends!:

  1.  Stress the beauty of our democracy over individual choices. We have a democracy that the world watches and we always need to respect the process.  IF we focus on the process and downplay the players, you can bring the conversation back to a calmer tone..I always tell folks that if we don’t like a certain President, then the voting booth is the best place to voice your opinion, not facebook!
  2. Recognize that we truly don’t have access to all of the facts about any one situation.  If you don’t know, then it is best not to talk!  Active listening and respect for another is what counts.
  3. Ask yourself:”What issue or sin about yourself if came out, would shock people”. That is why it is very important to examine yourself first as it is very difficult to recognize your own sin, but very easy to focus on the sin of another.  As I have said, I am so happy and thankful that Jesus didn’t judge me the way some have judged our presidents.   The Bible tells us:”He who is without sin should cast the first stone”.
  4. Try to seek understanding first and listen to what others say.  I always like to ask lots of questions as to why a person thinks and feels the way they do. Everyone sees their world through their lens and perspective.  The key is to seek understanding versus just having your opinion heard.
  5. Keeping silent when you see results.  Successful business executives typically employ Rockefeller habits.  Strategically aligning and executing plans to take us from one place to a desired place.  Watch for the speed and execution of goals and strategies. Its about powerful habits directed towards the right goals that successful leaders drive businesses, organizations and the country. When you see someone creating results that are needed, it is better to say nothing and just keep smiling!

Why People Don’t Keep New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year 2017!   Its time again to roll out our New Year’s goals and dreams for the upcoming year.  For many of us, we plan our goals in the previous 4th quarter for the roll out that happens now.  So, how are you doing so far executing your plan?  Here are some suggestions to help you keep on track with your New Years goals and resolutions.

  1. The main reason why we don’t manage to keep our resolutions and achieve our goals is caused by previous paradigms we have developed either from our parents or from our experiences in life.  Our paradigms keep us from achieving all what we have hoped for if they are not aligned properly with what we want to achieve.
  2. Our Paradigms keep us in unproductive habits and addictions.  The way we look at the world can have either a positive or negative effect on what we achieve.  So the secret to achieving more in life and keeping our promise to ourselves is deeply rooted in how we change our habits into productive habits!  And changing habits takes practice and discipline.
  3. Alignment is critical.  We have to  know exactly where we are today and where we want to be tomorrow if we have any chance at reaching them.  Then, we work towards aligning our habits and changing them if necessary to be able to put ourselves into a position of success.
  4. The daily grind of executing the details of our work and the people who try to bring us down have to be dealt with very strategically.  Remember that when you dream big, someone will probably be there to pull you down.  And often times, its a family member or loved one.  But you must resist and keep moving forward.
  5. Surround yourself with people who have big dreams as well.  These folks will provide energy for you to keep going.
  6. Keep learning each and everyday how you respond to obstacles and then try to respond in a new and more effective way each and every time.  Remember, that each day you don’t take steps towards your goals, you are actually moving away from your goals.
  7. Figure out the most productive time of the day for yourself and try to put the most important work during that time.  For me, I try to put 5 hours each day into product sales and marketing.   The remaining hours are spent in less productive work that needs to be handled.
  8. The biggest mistake is to over analyze and try to make everything perfect.  JUST GET STARTED and don’t worry about the criticism. I know my blog isn’t the greatest, but I try each and every day to make strides in my work.  So, just START!

How to be Happy at Christmas

When you think you are about to explode

Well, its that time of year again and your heading home for a family Christmas.  Here are a few tips to make things go smoother:

  1.  If you have difficult family members and feel that you need just to explode, I recommend that you first have a Christmas Coach!  I am a Christmas Coach for several family members and when they are getting really anxious, they send me texts and I work to calm them down!  This way they kind of get it off their chest with me and save the family party!  It works just great.
  2. The brain cannot entertain and negative thought and a positive thought at the same time, so if you are starting to get negative thoughts at your family party…just replace that negative thought with a positive thought and watch how it works!  But remember, this takes practice and practice makes perfect!
  3. Watch the alcohol consumption as loose lips sink ships.  It is better to take it easy and enjoy the day.
  4. Count your blessings no matter how you feel.  Having a sense of Gratitude about your life and your family party sets a positive tone for the day and a peaceful feeling inside.
  5. Remember, everything changes and life is very short.  Enjoy this Christmas with friends and family because next year could be completely different.  And we sometimes don’t realize what we have until our loved ones are no longer with us!

Merry Christmas Everyone!

Jack

Come join me at the Union Club of Cleveland for a special Business Breakfast for CEO’s, Entrepreneurs and Business owners where we will discuss the 7 skills every leader must embrace!

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